Accepting your Shadow Self, Defacing Illusion


I stood there staring into the eyes of a stranger.

I stood there staring into the eyes of a woman I’d known my entire life, into the eyes of woman who was distorted by circumstance.Only this stranger knew me all too well. She was a testament to my story. She’d been there all along bearing witness to my weaknesses. She was there when my desire to give in to the endless gaping hole of emptiness that tempted me. She understood me. However, I despised her. I wondered how I’d come to hate her so. I wondered why the sight of her made me cringe. This woman. The woman who danced with my shadows, who’d once shown me her beautiful face and made me promises of sweet milk and honey. The longer I gazed into her eyes, I began to see that I was a mere reflection of everything I once was, a reflection of everything I secretly desired to be once more.

A single salty tear escaped my eye in spite of my resistance. Taking a deep breath, I leaned in and met her lips with a kiss. As I exhaled, my breath fogged the glass creating a transparent veil between her and I. In the fog, I traced the words, ‘I Love You’. I instantly felt as if a ton of bricks had been lifted from my chest. My heart felt lighter. When the fog finally cleared from the mirror, I stared into her eyes once more. Only this time, the woman looked completely different to me not because she was different, but because I chose to see her differently. It was in this pivotal moment that I learned one of life’s biggest lessons. Sometimes all it takes is a choice.

Is your glass half empty or half full?

When we choose to look at things differently everything changes. Finding the beauty in life alters the way that we perceive it. Obstacles can swiftly become exercises in endurance, heartache transforms into strength training and our enemies become our greatest teachers.

Creating Mental Shifts

I once was a glass half empty kind of gal myself. I understand that choosing empowering thoughts or simply looking on the bright side of things is much harder than it seems. There are always those beastly thoughts that are lurking in the corners of our minds slyly awaiting their chance to take the spotlight. But it isn’t impossible to tame those beasts. Your mind can be trained in the same way that your body can, It’s simply a matter of choice and discipline. Any negative thought that creeps up in your mind can be combated with a positive one. Choosing happiness means realizing that everything you need to thrive coherently is within you.

Take the time today to allow yourself to look at your shadow self. Love and accept yourself in your grand entirety and remove the veil of unworthiness.


Today we honor you with this incredible lesson from the late Debbie Ford.